Mother’s Day Gift Guide for The Leading Lady in Your Life!

Me & My Mommy!

Mother’s Day is literally right around the corner and I’m so late into the game of getting this gift guide out to yall. You would think all this time in the house I would be so organized, and yall I’m just not. Haha and that’s okay too. I hope that you can think of this guide not only for your mom, but for that leading lady in your life whether it’s a gift for your grandmother, aunt, sister, or best friend. Also, when purchasing gifts be intentional in your “gifting”. Add a personal touch to your gift whether it’s through a handwritten note, or a handmade gift bag. If you don’t have much to spend, that’s okay too. Most things from the heart are some of the very best gifts to give! For example, my mom LOVES Chick-Fil-A milkshakes and the best gift I’ve ever gotten for her has been a $5-$10 gift card to Chick-Fil-A and a handwritten note expressing that I love her more than chocolate milkshakes. See? A personal touch always gives that special gift an extra special touch.

Luckily all stores will ship, and you can also purchase gift cards virtually too! Just remember you can still add your personal touch by uploading pictures and still writing meaningful messages virtually. Ok, what you’ve all been waiting for THE GIFT GUIDE! Let’s go.

Posted on LTK too!

Monogram Necklace – I love anything monogrammed, maybe it’s the southern in me – haha, but it’s an easy and thoughtful gift to give. Because it is a gift, make sure that you keep it simple, classic, and chic.

Anthropologie has some really nice simple and sleek monogram necklaces I’m sure that the leading lady in your life will really enjoy. They will reach for this time and time again.

Journals – Journal’s are nice for the ones who enjoy writing or journaling. For the leading lady that loves to keep a journal by her bedside to write her thoughts or scriptures down this would be perfect. Go an extra mile and have journals monogrammed or engraved.

Picture Frames – I love gifting (and receiving) simple and delicate picture frames. Add a photo of you and the leading lady in your life inside the frame. When gifting a picture frame try to go for simple frames, nothing with large and overwhelming patterns or designs. Keeping it simple will ensure that the frame will be used and cherished.  Again, here is your chance to make this as special as you want this gift to be.

Lipstick Holder – Oh my goodness, I just about died a little when I saw this cute little lipstick holder from Anthroplogie. They also come in a few other sizes. How cute would this be on the vanity? Your mom can have her favorite lipsticks displayed in her room or bathroom on this cute holder.

Coffee/Tea Mugs – Who doesn’t love a nice coffee/tea mug? I’ve even seen some display their mugs in a cabinet. I love those that are different and chic. I always rely on Anthroplogie for a new mug. They make great gifts for those who are coffee/tea lovers. Go the extra mile and drop some tea bags, or a gift card to Starbucks inside the mug to make the present extra thoughtful. Even a nice travel mug would be thoughtful!

For the cooking ladies, gifting some nice bowls are a win! I have gifted these bowls a few times and the recipients have always loved and still use them today. I must admit I may have a couple of these in my cabinet I love how fun and affordable these bowls are.

Throws! As I’m writing this post, we’re in the middle of the COVID-19 Pandemic so many of us are at home for days, weeks at a time. Why not gift a beautiful and cozy throw as a way to say “Hey, I miss you and thinking of you”. How special would that gift be to the leading lady in your life?

Kimonos! Kimonos are so fun to gift! Especially if they’re a fashionista. Most if not all kimonos come in a size that fits everyone. It will put a smile on anyone’s face to receive a new kimono from someone they love!

Below are some other fun and neat gifts to give!

I hope you enjoyed these gift ideas, and hope they inspire you as you shop and gift these to the leading lady in your life. Again, if it comes from the heart it will be well received. Below are some local shops that also have some great gifts, check em out!

Have a great time celebrating on Mother’s Day friends! xoxo

P.s. each time you shop with my links I earn a small commission, as always I thank and appreciate you for supporting my passion through this blog!

Quarantine Self-Care Ideas

Yall, two months ago I never would have pictured us being secluded from the world in our homes for weeks at a time. As I write this, we’re ending week 5 and heading into week 6. I’m going to pause here for a min to say to our front-line workers through all of this, THANK YOU! You guys are the real heroes! I am praying for all of our essential workers, for their safety and protection, and for their families they are leaving behind day in and out. Our country will be stronger throughout all of this I pray! Ok, back to the post.

I thought I would share some #Quarantine “self-care” ideas. Some of these I want to try, and some are actually on my to-do list since we have all the time in the world, but not too much time for me since I’m still working my full-time job from home. I really hope these ideas inspire, encourage, and help to fill up some time. I know many of you have little ones running around the house, and although I am single I hope that you can still partake in some of these self-care ideas and of course feel free to tweak whatever you want! I would love to know if you try any of these ideas, or if you have some other ideas drop them in the comment section!

  • Take a Drive! Yes, take a drive! One thing I miss is my commute to work because that’s the only time I’m able to sit and just listen to a good podcast whether a true crime podcast or a HR podcast. When I’ve been in the house too long, or I start to get frustrated I fix me some ginger ale or sweet tea in my yeti cup and just drive! Gas is really low so why not get out and go driving, maybe drive over to the next town to sight-see some cool landmarks (I mean no one is out – literally). Pack a light lunch or light snacks and fill your coolers and hit the road. For me it calms my anxiety and gives me a chance to clear my mind. If you need some recommendations for podcast let me know in the comments.
  • Plant Flowers/Trees – Most hardware and garden centers are open and doing curbside assistance. Me and my mom went to our local garden center and got all the things we needed to plant vegetables for my mom, and small potted flowers for me. We then took one Saturday to play around in the yard and plant all of our things it was so fun, and the time flew by! Being outside and your hands in the dirt is so good for your well-being during quarantine.
  • Shut it All Down! Take 1-2 hours every other day and shut down your devices! Every other day or every day if you can, take a couple of hours to shut off the TV, laptop, and fun to just meditate and have some alone time. Have kids? Encourage them to the same with you guide them into a practice of “disconnecting” and practicing some “quiet time”. Use this time to journal, read a self-help book, some scriptures, or just lay in God’s presence.
  • Check on a friend! This is a great daily practice. Pick one friend (or more if you have the time) and face-time, phone, or text a friend or a co-worker that you’re missing. This will do good for your soul, and make sure there is plenty of laughter in the midst of your conversation.
  • Spa Night! Take an evening and turn on some zen music, put on a mask, paint your nails or toes. Have little ones? Get them to join in! Put them in a robe and cut up some cucumbers for their eyes – take an hour or two to just relax and focus on yourself. Here is a link to some fun masks from Sephora.
  • Bake/Cook – I know for me during #quarantine I have found some relaxation in baking or cooking something new! I’ve been on Pinterest more than ever and just searching for fun and new easy recipes.
  • Paint! I’ve also been on YouTube looking up fun easy paintings I could do. Did you know there are tons of painting tutorials on YouTube? I’m blown away. I have my canvas, paintbrushes, and paint in my room just waiting for me to use. I plan to take these things outside this weekend with my iPad to access YouTube and paint something. A great thing to do to keep your mind occupied and a great self-care thing to do! This is the time to try all the things with all this extra time.
  • Dance! Sometimes when I feel overwhelmed I take some music crank it up and just move throughout my room. Everyone in your household could do this too. If it becomes a “thing” you love – make it a daily thing you do with your family and have a “dance happy hour”. Music is definitely therapeutic.
  • BreatheDon’t forget to breathe, and give yourself lots and lots of grace as we continue to do our part in staying home. You are not in this alone.


Hi Friends,

Easter weekend is here and I’m thinking about how this will be the first year where I won’t be in a “building” surrounded by my faith family celebrating the resurrection of our Savior. I also know that I don’t have to go to church to celebrate Easter. I can do that right from home and I plan to do just that. I’m looking forward to this weekend. I plan to get outside and plant some pretty flowers, build a mini cross, and prepare an Easter meal or maybe just something sweet! I will still fix myself up to watch online Easter services and reflect on the goodness of God throughout the day. Now more than ever what’s going on is testing many of our faith levels. The church is home now, not a physical building (nor was it ever – we individually are called to be the church).

Find this beautiful floral dress from Target!

The enemy thinks he’s winning with the effects of COVID-19 looming over us and keeping us “home”. I don’t think he’s winning at all. I’ve experienced so many sweet moments being in isolation that I would have never experienced if we weren’t forced to be home. I’m choosing to find the tiny joys and victories throughout my day and I’m challenging you too to find those same joys and victories.

I know at times it may be hard to process what’s going on all around us and some days I have my moments where I’m thinking “when is this all going to end”. But you know what? I’m so glad Easter is here because it’s taking my mind off what’s going on in the world, in fixing my eyes on the beautiful story of the resurrection of Jesus Christ. He is alive and well, yall! He knew no sin, but yet He thought I was to die for with all my sins that I carry.

If you have some time, or want to know more of the Easter story in the Bible, click here to read a beautiful summary of it all.

“The goodness of Good Friday is that because He walked silently to the cross, like a Lamb to slaughter, not protesting the punishment meted out upon Him, we have hope. He was rejected by God that we might be made acceptable to God, a people for His own possession. This was the promise given through Jeremiah: “I will be their God, and they will be my people” (Jeremiah 31:33).” Read more here…#SheReadsTruth

How do you plan to spend this beautiful weekend? I would love to read, so feel free to share in the comments. I’m thinking of all my readers and friends daily.

We will get through this and let’s rejoice because He is alive! P.s. If you’re looking for somewhere to stream Easter services, can I say you can join me at my church? We would love to worship with you or one of the pastors can walk you through Salvation! There are Saturday services available as well as 5 services on Sundays. The best thing? You can worship right where you are this weekend – tune in and get connected with Pinelake Church!

Found this beautiful painting on Pinterest!

How to Shop Online

I get a lot of messages asking how do I know which size to buy, so I thought I would share some of my tips and tricks when shopping online. It’s taken me a few years to finally nail down what size I need to order from certain brands after a lot of frustration of either picking something too small or something not flattering.

SHEin Curves dress. I’m wearing the 3X here, but could have sized down to a 2X.

My first and foremost important tip to picking your size online is to purchase and own a measuring tape. Super affordable and will help when figuring out your size online. If you have one go ahead and measure your bust, waist, and hips and jot your numbers down somewhere where you can easily locate them such as in your note app. I used to get upset about my measurement numbers but girlfriend don’t let it get to you – I knocked that negativity out the window years ago. I buy things that make me happy, and not worry about the size label on the inside. So I’m releasing that from you  (smile).

When it’s a new brand (to you), look at the sizing chart and compare it to your numbers. When in doubt I always say SIZE UP ONE. For example, my bust is 46 on some sizing charts that number can fall anywhere between XL-2X (depending on the brand), If 1X is 46 and 2X is 48, I will more than always likely go with the 2X BECAUSE I don’t like super fitted clothes, so I know the 2x will work just fine with just enough room in the bust area for me. If something is way too big, you can always tuck it (if it’s a shirt), or belt it. I would rather have something taken in, than taking out.

Next, I’m a huge fan of reviews! I know, I know, who has times to read reviews. Butttt, I do like read a few reviews just to see if they are real photos and read about the quality of the item. Trust me, it works. If only I could just remember to go back and write reviews on things I’ve purchased. I’m looking for ratings in addition to reviews does the dress I’m looking for have 5 stars or 2, and if it’s 2 stars why did the dress get 2 stars? There will be times where you can tell people don’t leave authentic reviews and you can filter those out.

Kimonos are great because they almost always run large. I always size down one when buying kimonos.

When it comes to fabric that plays a factor when selecting clothing online. If the clothing item has no stretch I like to size up. If a top, sweater, or dress is “oversized’ I can typically size down one to two sizes. The boutique brand UMGEE that you see a lot in different online boutiques runs extremely large, so I know that anytime that I see that brand I know I can size down confidently in that item. When it comes to shopping with online boutiques – I really have to rely on the stock photos, consider the model, and if there are any review. Again I’m looking at the brands that the online boutique carries, like are they carrying UMGEE or PEACE LOVE CAKE, because those brands typically run large so I know I can get away with a Large and sometimes a Medium.

If I see something online that I LOVE or curious about, if it’s available in store I tend to go to the store to look at and feel it, even if it’s not my correct size I can get a great sense of it when I can touch it (now I know this is not the case for all things, but sometimes it works out). For example, Loft carries plus sizes online, but not in all stores. If I see something online at Loft in plus, I know that I can go into Loft store and see it in another size in order for me to make my determination on if I should purchase online or not.

Also, I’m always looking for things that I’m going to get the most wear out of. I tend to stay away from a lot of “trendy” prints that may only be in season for a year or two and go towards lots of solids and classic prints such as “leopard” and “stripes”. I love bold colors and bold prints, and you can tell if something will take you from season to season, year after year. That’s what I tend to stick with at the most. I’m also looking at the price tag – is it affordable, if it’s a splurge item and it’s costing me around $60 I’m asking myself will I wear it at least 30x’s just so that I can get my moneys worth.

Lastly, never be afraid to email an online boutique to ask what brand an item is and ask for sizing details. I’ve done this before and it really helped in my purchasing decision. I also know which brands I have the most success purchase rate, and when I need something in a pinch, I know I can count on that particular brand. Look for key statements such as “runs large”, or “runs small” – these really help determine what size to buy. Anthropologie is really good about listing these statements on a lot of the clothes they sell and they help tremendously.

I hope that these tips help you the next time you browse and shop online! Shopping online is fun, but can also be a little overwhelming – so give yourself grace to have trial and error. To help, I’m going to share some of my fav brands below with the sizes that I typically order. Reference I’m 5’0, wear a 1x or 2x in tops, dresses, and bottoms. For number size in tops I wear a 16 or 18. Sweaters XL or 2x (if it’s oversized I can get away with a L sometimes). I wear a 18 or 20 in pants and skirts (with no elastic). In dresses I wear a 18 or 20 (if it has no stretch).


Tee’s – XXL or 16 Plus

Blouses – XL, XXL or 16 Plus

Skirts – XXL, or 16/18 Plus

Dresses – XXL, or 16 Plus (sometimes an XL if it’s a flowy fit)

Pants – 18 Plus

Cardigans – XL

Kimonos – S/M (these are very forgiving and curvy flattering)


Tee’s – XXL or 2X

Blouses –XXL or 2X

Skirts – XXL, or 1X

Dresses – XXL, or 1X

Pants – 18 or 20 Plus

Cardigans – XL or XXL

Old Navy

Tee’s – 2X

Blouses –XXL or 2X

Skirts – XL or XXL

Dresses – XXL, or 1X

Pants – 18 or 20 Plus

Cardigans – XL

SHEin (be very careful to sizing on SHEin)

Tee’s – 2X

Blouses –2X or 3X

Skirts – 2X

Dresses – 2X

Have questions? Please feel free to drop them below and I will get back to you! xx

What Enneagram Number Are You?

Have you had someone ask you, “Hey, what’s your Enneagram number?”. Maybe you blurted out, “Yeah! I’m a 3!” or maybe have said, “What is the Enneagram?”. To be honest I’m not sure how long Enneagram has really been around, but I found out about this personality number about 2 years ago and ever since I took the test, it has been a confirmation on my personality and emotions. So you’re probably thinking, okay what exactly is the Enneagram? Well I’ll tell ya, and keep reading to find out how you can take your free personality test to discover your number or numbers. I’ll reveal my number at the end of this post.

The Enneagram is an ancient personality typing system aka personal growth self-assessment test with a mysterious accuracy in describing how we as human beings are wired, both positively and negatively. I highly suggest you read the book, The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile as both authors offer a unique approach that is practical to understand and they offer a comprehensive way of accessing Enneagram wisdom and exploring its connections with a Christian perspective. The book allows you to glance inside each of the nine Enneagram types (there are 9). After reading the book you will have a greater knowledge of yourself and start to see the world through others with an understanding why we act the way do, feel, and think. The test offers a way to change how you see yourself and others. The Enneagram helps in the areas of your career and relationships with others, and how each “types” relate to one another. It is a very cool thing to discover your number and then have a discussion with your friends to see what their numbers are and start to piece everyone together. I’m all about community, so the whole thing of finding your Enneagram is so cool because it gives me a chance to understand others on a different level and add depth to relationships. So, what are each of the numbers? Well I’ve placed them below, and at the end I’ll reveal my number!


The Rational, Idealistic Type: Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic


The Caring, Interpersonal Type: Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, and Possessive


The Success-Oriented, Pragmatic Type: Adaptive, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious


The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental


The Intense, Cerebral Type: Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated


The Committed, Security-Oriented Type: Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious


The Busy, Fun-Loving Type: Spontaneous, Versatile, Distractible, and Scattered


The Powerful, Dominating Type: Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational


The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type: Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent

Just reading over those types you can’t help but to assign those types to either yourself or to someone you already know whose personality fits one of the above types. Can you guess which Enneagram number am I? I’m a 2 (The Helper)! When I got the results of my test a couple years ago, it was almost spooky how spot on it was. As I started to discuss my number with others, it was neat to see how everyone was a different number and how those who had the same number as me, explained why we were such good friends! My number also explained to me why my emotions are all over the place at times when it comes to situations and relationships.

Ready to take the free test to discover your number(s)? Some have 2 top numbers. Click here, and then come back here and let me know which type you are and if you’re a fellow type 2 I would certainly like to know too!!

Read more about the Enneagram here.



Spring is Here!

Happy first day of spring! Even in the midst of a crisis, let’s take a moment to look on a positive note and get some good vibes going on. Cato’s has some amazing things out for spring and it has been a blast trying on things and finding me some things to take home. From work wear to out on the town, Cato has what you need! One thing I LOVE about Cato’s is that pretty much all of their clothes are available in ALL sizes and all super affordable. Here are some of my favorite looks and picks below. I would love to know which is your favorite so take a look and let me know in the comments.

How cute is this entire outfit? I love the bright yellow skirt with the front tie and of course the leopard top is my fav! I can not only wear this combo together or pair the leopard blouse with some Cato denim! I’m wearing a 16/18 in both the top and skirt.
Skirt regular / plus – Leopard blouse regular / plus
I was in Nashville a couple weeks ago and was exploring downtown and this outfit received so many compliments! The skirt is so flowy and the fit is true to size. I paired it with this neutral lace top to complete. I’m wearing a 14/16 in both the top and skirt.
Maxi Skirt Plus and Lace Blouse Regular / Plus
You may remember this bright colored blouse I posted previously for St. Patty’s day and it has been a hit! You will smile every time you wear this! I’m wearing a 14/16. This blouse is currently on sale too for under $15!
Faux Wrap Green Blouse Regular / Plus

Below are some more of my top spring Cato picks!

Protecting Your Mental Space

In the chaos of everything, I pray you’re well as as your family. Take a moment to ready 5 ways to protect your mental space.

With the chaos of everything going on, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed or fearful of what’s to come. I do believe that this is a time for us all to reevaluate our priorities and to consider using this time for rest, home projects, quality family time in homes, etc. As someone who has and continues to walk through anxiety, I wanted to share 5 tips in protecting your “mental space”. These are what help me, but may not necessarily help you – everyone is different and that’s okay. After you read this post in the comments below feel free to share a tip or two you lean on when you experience anxiety.

1.Limit watching or reading the news, even bowing out gracefully of conversations that overwhelm you. It’s okay to know the facts, but be mindful of your head space.

2. Set aside some quiet time 10-20 to just breathe, and meditate -DAILY

3. Turn your attention to things you can control right in front of you – do things that bring you joy or provide peace in your space such as lighting a candle

4. Ask for help, or guidance to get through – for me, praying helps bring me back (none of this is an accident to Christ, He knows and holds the future) I choose to rest in that and in Him

5. Last but not least, find a reason to just LAUGH – pull up a funny video, text some memes to your friends, be silly, laugh at yourself.

I hope one or all of these tips help you in the days or weeks to come. I hope you’ll choose to come back here to find light & joy! I’ll continue to share styles, sales, and inspiration totally NOT forgetting what’s happening around us. Let’s pray for our health professionals – they need our support and prayers. Check on your family, neighbors, and friends. Support local businesses by utilizing their curbside, and delivery services. There are SO many ways WE can help and get through this uncomfortable time together. Remain calm & breathe! I’m in this with you babe! 😘

Don’t Get Pinched!

This faux wrap top is the perfect #workwear option – especially if you’re working on St. Patty’s day! Available in regular & plus sizes and under $23 dollars from Cato! My pants are linked here.

St. Patrick’s Day (click here to read all about St. Patrick’s Day) is coming up and I want to make sure that you don’t get pinched because you don’t have any green! I’ve already got my outfit ready to go for St. Patty’s day. Cato’s has TONS of green items available and ready for you to rock and wear! Click here to see all they have to offer in the shade of green! Also, below are some of my top picks from Cato’s right now in green! See something you like? Let me know below!

10 Inspiring Black History Facts

I am grateful and thankful for those who have passed before me to make all that I do “today” possible. As a country I feel that we have a long ways to go with racial reconciliation and I still believe we can get there, it will take all of us (and God) for us to get to a place of unity and love. As we close out the month of February also recognized as Black History Month I wanted to share 10 Inspiring Black History Facts. I hope you take the time to read over these facts, initiate conversations with your family, and to always be willing to listen to those who may, or may not look like you. Let’s commit to love and understanding history so that we can continue to make progress for the better! Xoxo

  1. Claudette Colvin was a 15 year old schoolgirl who refused to move to the back of the bus, nine months before Rosa Parks’ stand that launched the Montgomery bus boycott. Claudette was thrown in jail and was one of the four women who challenged the segregation law in court.
  2. Did you know that James Brown let the rhythmic pattern drive his singing? He even made his voice sound percussive…and this is what made funk music a popular sound.
  3. Harriet Tubman adopted a daughter, Gertie after the Civil War with her second husband Nelson Davis.
  4. Fannie Lou Hammer was a sharecropper in the MS Delta, because of her difficulty in registering to vote in 1962 led her into a career as an outspoken activist, a congressional candidate, and a fierce fighter for rights for all.
  5. Shirley Chisholm was the first African-American woman elected to the House of Representative in 1968 in the state of New York. Shirley was also the first female candidate for president of the United States.
  6. Shirley Chisholm was an American politician, educator, and an author. In 1968 she became the first Black woman elected to the United States Congress.
  7. When it comes to cowboys, did you know that 1 in 4 was Black?
  8. Zelda Barbour Valdes was the first black designer to open her own shop, which was the first black-owned business on Broadway in NYC. Zelda was a fashion and costume designer. Her store was named Chez Zelda. Some of her celebrity clients were Josephine Baker, Mae West, Ella Fitzgerald, Dorothy Dandridge, and many more!
  9. Marie Van Brown was the first to patent the modern home security system! Read her story here:
  10. Maya Angelou stopped celebrating her birthday for years following the assassination of her friend, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

White Chicken Chili

We still are having some chilly days, so that means cravings for warm meals is still in full swing! I made this once for my parents, and my mom has been requesting this White Chicken Chili atleast twice a month now. I make a big pot, and my mom is able to spread it out over the course of the week (if we don’t eat the whole pot). It’s so easy to make and I really can’t believe I’m posting a recipe – ha ha. So here we go! I hope you guys try it out and then come back here and let me know how it turned out or tag me in IG with you creation.

  • 2 cans of cooked chicken (or you can grab some chicken breasts, clean, boil, and then shred it by hand)
  • 1 jar of salsa (I used a half jar of regular salsa and another half of some spicy salsa – for a little kick)
  • 1 (or 2) cups of shredded cheese
  • 1 1/2 Tbsp. Cumin
  • 2-3 cans of white beans
  • 2-3 cans of chicken broth
  • a sprinkle of black pepper
  • a sprinkle of additional spices of your choosing (you don’t have to add this, but I love chili or soup with a little kick to it – wink)

Throw everything into a pot (or a crock-pot) and let it all simmer for 45-min to an hour. Pour soup in a bowl and add crushed tortilla chips on top and more cheese and voila!